A good father makes all the difference in a child’s life. He’s a pillar of strength, support and discipline. His work is endlesss and, oftentimes thankless. But in the end, it shows in the sound, well-adjusted children he raises.
So what are some of the characteristics or traits that can secure that solid position? What keeps some winning in the dad department and scores them extra brownie points for being cool? BUZZZ Magazine embarked on an investigation to determine ten features that make a man an ideal patriarchal figure and came up with the following.
1. Patience.
We all know that is easier said than done, especially dealing with this generation of children who think ‘back talk’ is a sport and have more rights than a UNICEF convention! A good father has to exercise control and reasonability not only in their actions but their words. Actively listening when your kids are having an issue means a lot, even if you cannot Immediately solve the situation.
2. Being present.
Anyone can pay a bill, pay for GSAT lessons or buy new clothes but do you actually turn up for father’s day race on sports day or help them with that tough geometry homework? In short, children need your presence’ more than your ‘presents’.
3. Open-mindedness.
A great father is cognizant of the fact that norms and attitudes change over time and does not try to hold his children to impossible or unrealistic standards that may leave them feeling unable to measure up. He may recognize, for example, that his children talk freely about their sexuality and experiences or that they want to express themselves through fashion or their choice of music. Rather than refer to it all as ‘stupid’, he shows tolerance for teenage angst and growing pains. As long as it is not harmful, just ride it out.
4. Challenges.
In order to help them grow as human beings, fathers should also inspire their children to be their best selves by allowing them to not only make their own mistakes but grow and build from them. Shielding them from life will only make them unable to stand on their own as adults. Instead, challenge them to rise about adversities and to develop the coping skills necessary to meet life head-on and to prosper.
5. Lead by example.
Do not tell them not to do something, then allow them to see you do the very same thing. Not only is that hypocrisy, but over time they will lose respect for your ability, to be honest. When it comes to child-rearing, for the best results do not cut any corners…
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A good father makes all the difference in a child’s life. He’s a pillar of strength, support and discipline. His work is endlesss and, oftentimes thankless. But in the end, it shows in the sound, well-adjusted children he raises.
So what are some of the characteristics or traits that can secure that solid position? What keeps some winning in the dad department and scores them extra brownie points for being cool? BUZZZ Magazine embarked on an investigation to determine ten features that make a man an ideal patriarchal figure and came up with the following.
1. Patience.
We all know that is easier said than done, especially dealing with this generation of children who think ‘back talk’ is a sport and have more rights than a UNICEF convention!
A good father has to exercise control and reasonability not only in their actions but their words. Actively listening when your kids are having an issue means a lot, even if you cannot Immediately solve the situation.
2. Being present.
Anyone can pay a bill, pay for GSAT lessons or buy new clothes but do you actually turn up for father’s day race on sports day or help them with that tough geometry homework? In short, children need your presence’ more than your ‘presents’.
3. Open-mindedness.
A great father is cognizant of the fact that norms and attitudes change over time and does not try to hold his children to impossible or unrealistic standards that may leave
them feeling unable to measure up. He may recognize, for example, that his children talk freely about their sexuality and experiences or that they want to express themselves through fashion or
their choice of music. Rather than refer to it all as ‘stupid’, he shows tolerance for teenage angst and growing pains. As long as it is not harmful, just ride it out.
4. Challenges.
In order to help them grow as human beings, fathers should also inspire their children to be their best selves by allowing them to not only make their own mistakes but grow and build from them. Shielding them from life will only make them unable to stand on their own as adults. Instead, challenge them to rise about adversities and to develop the coping skills necessary to meet life head-on and to prosper.
5. Lead by example.
Do not tell them not to do something, then allow them to see you do the very same thing. Not only is that hypocrisy, but over time they will lose respect for your ability, to be honest. When it comes to child-rearing, for the best results do not cut any corners…
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