The Apple Does Not Fall Far From The Tree….How to raise well-behaved children.
No one ever said that rearing children is a walk in the park. However, Buzzz Magazine is here to the rescue, suggesting ways to make the process more a breeze.
Be A Role Model
Whether you like it or not, your behaviour will give a lasting impression to your child than your words. Children are the best imitators, so make sure to let them imitate how you want them to behave. Set the presidency and good examples, remembering the ‘apple does not fall far from the tree.’
Let’s say your child behaves in a particular way which is not to your liking, if you are able to correct the problem not only through a good ‘talking-to’ but also by your actions, then you’re less likely to fall back on shouting, smacking or something that simply won’t work. This will help in the process of making a successful role model.
Give Positive Attention. Everyone loves attention. If kids don’t get positive attention, they will do anything, even act out negatively, just to get it. Taking a few minutes a day to spend ‘one-on- one’ time with your child, distraction-free and doing something they want to do, will reap immense rewards in their behaviour. Reward children for the many great things they do. Praise them with lots of love for their
achievements.
Train Your ‘Mini You’ To Have Problem Solving Skills
One of the best ways to discipline a child is to train them how to make better choices. When you give children the tools they need to figure out problems on their own, they will behave better because they ‘ll be better equipped to take care of themselves.
Be Empathetic
Being empathetic means being able to appreciate your childs issues, their struggles, problems, and feelings, and consider why your child might be acting out. Talk openly with your child on a daily basis. Building a high level of trust and understanding with your child will prevent plenty of issues that would require a discipline tactic.
Practice Patience
Children are naturally impatient. This is because children survive by letting their needs be known mediately. Practice with your child the art of waiting. Allow your child to feel the unpleasantness of waiting because it’s a great change agent. Explain to your tot that you know it’s frustrating to wait but also praise them for being patient. The more you validate your child’s struggle figuring out a problem, the more likely they’ll try harder. Additionally, involve your kids in activities that require patience and offer beautiful results such as planting a flowering seedling.
Be A Disciplinarian
You cannot discipline a child without being a disciplinarian. However, most misunderstand who is a disciplinarian is, especially Caribbean folks. A disciplinarian is simply a teacher. The word ‘discipline’ means teaching and learning, this is in essence, your sole job as a parent; to teach and not to preach!
To be a good disciplinarian, you should always be consistent with your rules. Parents break this rule fearing their children may not like them, but if kids don’t know what to expect from their parents, they never really know what the rules are. Another mistake is vague rules. Explain the rules of the house when you are calm and your child is not too upset to listen. It is equally necessary to explain to kids what you expect of them.
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