Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful – there is often a challenge or a decision leading to the day at the altar. Every little nuance, and nuisance, can put you in a momentary tizzy.
Ask Lorna Brammer, guest relations and wedding manager at Hedonism II, who has helped hundreds of people plan their weddings.
“It’s supposed to be the happiest time of your life, but you have to find time to cram a lot into your regular life, like the colour scheme of the wedding, shopping for bridal and bridesmaid dresses, family anxieties and several other wedding dynamics,” said Brammer.
It’s enough to let any couple suffer from wedding jitters. How do you not allow jitters to overpower your experience?
Here are five simple ways to treat yourself to calming relief and remedies leading up to the wedding.
Everyone will have something to say
Expect to be bombarded with unsolicited advice, horrible stories of weddings from those around you, especially friends and family, who are too caught up in their own reality to sometimes realise how they are affecting you. Some parents will want your wedding to be the wedding they never had, or like theirs. And your close friends know how they want it to be because they know you. The experience itself can also be fraught with other conventional matters, such as mixing faiths and traditional versus non-traditional weddings.
Lorna recommends, “Both the bride and the groom has to know what they want and communicate it clearly to loved ones, especially parents and friends who may want to play a stronger role in the planning. Let them know what you both want.”
Pay attention to issues
You will come to realise that planning your wedding takes a lot of people pleasing, and it can easily zap the spirit of the experience. If you have unresolved emotions with your partner, family or friends, you will need to fix these before your special day.
“It’s natural to deal with different emotions leading up to the wedding, but the future bride and groom can neutralise it by dealing with them together,” Lorna opines. She continues: “Being honest with each other about how they feel and seeking support or counselling if needed.”
The wedding doesn’t determine your happiness
“Our culture places a lot of emphasis on the perfect wedding, and that can put much pressure on the couple who may seem to be working a second or third job planning,” chimes Lorna. The wedding planner notes that this belief system is enough to evoke the thought that if something goes wrong on the wedding date, it is a sign of things to come. She warns, “It’s okay to be temporary obsessed, but keep your eyes on what truly matters – the marriage you both will share.”
Have a Wedding Count Plan
While dealing with pressing concerns, there’s a chance you may overlook the more minute, yet not insignificant particulars of beauty care, such as getting your skin and hair into shape.
Stylist and owner of All Dolled Up Cosmetics, Shauna Cole, notes: “As far out as six months, meet with your dermatologist, make sure your skin is under wraps, and if you need to do treatments, you will have enough time to complete them. Develop a plan if needs be, brighten your smile, evaluate your hair and get it looking as healthy as possible. Wax and do regular facials.”
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