When most of us think of foreplay we envision kissing, caressing, moaning, grabbing and even some dirty talk… but foreplay is so much more.
When you meet someone new and you are exploring the connection between you, everything is usually so sensual and exciting. Once you decide to commit to that person and you embark on a life together the physical part of your relationship tends to become more predictable and lose some of the sensuality that you enjoyed when you were just getting to know each other. Some things become harder to do or in some cases these things become non-existent.
It is a set of physical, emotional and intimate acts between partners designed to cause or arouse a desire for sex. When most of us think of foreplay we envision kissing, caressing, moaning, grabbing and even some dirty talk. Yes all of these are included but foreplay is so much more.
What most persons don’t know is that foreplay actually starts before you even touch your partner. From a phone call to a shy glance across the room, your body starts to respond to your partner in very exciting ways. Foreplay is something that can be completely pleasurable as a part of the sexual experience. The problem is…a lot of men dread engaging because it looks like work.
Gender Divide
When it comes to foreplay, there is a clear gender divide because women want more and men just can’t be bothered. One of the biggest misconceptions is that women are the ones that require foreplay. This idea is false because it rules out the man’s need and even preference of foreplay.
The idea is, if the parties are sexually attracted to each other, they will already have a desire to get physical. One of the problems is that women are usually not very active in arousing the man because she assumes that he is already turned on. While this may be true, adding some sensuality will make the sex better for him as well.
Why Foreplay Matters
- Important for intimacy (personal connection between partners)
- Improves the excitement of the sexual experience
- Having an orgasm during foreplay is the ultimate satisfaction, especially for the lady
- On its own, sexual intercourse can be monotonous so foreplay adds fun
Sexual encounters can become boring and monotonous after a while. To keep things fresh and fun, here are some tips you can use:
Remember that foreplay starts before you make physical contact, so use up the technological tools to keep your partner interested until you see each other.
Send sexy emails, send a picture of just a body part to your partner as a promise of things to come. Have phone sex – this is a great way to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do to you.
Add a Sexy Element to Regular Activities
Instead of eating dessert from your plate place it on a body part and eat without using your hands. This is great because you would have been eating anyway, now you add a bit of sexy to it.
Get some toys, outfits, games items you can use to play with each other. Games are great because you can just follow the rules and that will become your foreplay. Keep an open mind and have fun.
Stimulate One ‘Sense’ at a time
Sex involves all the senses, so if you can master stimulating one sense at a time you will be more effective in arousing your partner. For some persons, one sense may be more dominant, find out which one and use that to your advantage.
Don’t be a Nipple-Nipple-Crotcher
I know the term may seem confusing but a Nipple-Nipple-Crotcher as the name suggests, is someone who’s idea of arousing their partner is to stimulate a nipple and the genital or crotch area.
The entire body can experience pleasure so explore and discover the erogenous zones that really gets your partner hot and bothered.
Once you approach foreplay with some sense of exploration and adventure, you will start to discover new things about your partner and even yourself. Making love is an exciting, pleasurable experience that will only get better if the connection between partners is strong. Foreplay is a great tool to deepen that connection so use it and have fun with each other.