“Wow, how things have changed”, is what I thought to myself when my now fiancé blurts out a burp while we were dining. I mean don’t get me wrong, nothing is wrong with that.
To be honest I am somewhat fine with it. At least, I now know she is human. But, that burp along with several others I have heard in the last couple weeks have made me very nostalgic. I started to reflect on the first year of our relationship and not year four.
The relationship started as you would expect, both of us were on our ‘Ps and Qs’. We were very ‘polite’, especially she. She would never fart in my presence, burp without trying to hold it in, sneeze out loud or worse, let me even know she did a ‘number 2’. I was by no way as ‘polite’ as she was; however, I would never have had my hand in my pants in her presence scratching you know what, or converse with her while I’m sitting on the ‘throne’.
But that’s how most relationships start… isn’t it? With us all pretending as if we were the exception to being born in sin, and we are just perfect. We want to ensure we do not gross out our new love interest to the point he or she leaves, before we even get to know the real she or him. But let me tell you, after that real person is established, ‘politeness’ is gone out the door and in comes Mr. and Mrs Comfortable!
‘Comfortable’ is usually a good thing. It means peace of mind exists in the relationship; both parties are happy being together and the relationship is for the most part, a good one. When the relationship hits a stage of comfortableness, most communication barriers are broken down, inhibitions of a sexual nature, about physical appearance and other general things are thrown out the window. Comfort, although tricky at times, is good!
There are just some things you do when you are comfortable in your relationship. Prior to the comfort level in my relationship, I found it hard to ask my now wife for a dollar. I mean, I would be broke to the point of not being able to pay attention, but I would never borrow from or take money from her. I guess it has to do with the macho thing – a man must always provide. However, now we have established a state of comfortableness, it’s as if our accounts have merged! We now know each other’s bank card pin, credit card numbers, online bank login and can also use each other’s funds, in a modest way, whenever we feel.
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