The role of a stepparent is undefined and not easily accepted.
Bringing up someone else’s child can be a fulfilling, motivating, yet heart-rending and exhausting responsibility. It involves developing an understanding and bond, which was not acquired via natural genes or the womb. However, before we start complaining about a man or woman parenting a child, which is not his or her own, let’s make it clear that all parents make mistakes.
Assume that we are not speaking of stepfathers and stepmothers who are both physically and verbally abusive to their stepchild, but the everyday challenges, which are obvious to some and invisible to others.
Assume the Role of “Parent” Right Away
Parenting begins with doing simple tasks such as assisting with preparing children for school in the mornings. “Every day he would take his stepdaughter to school in the mornings, it was his duty, a way for him to get to know her, and observe how she interacted with his little girl. But anytime his stepdaughter was bad-mannered, he could not help, but give her the dirtiest look.”
A stepfather admits that he despised his stepchild and for no apparent reason. If his daughter became disrespectful he would blame the stepdaughter or overlook it, but as time passed the bond between him and his step child grew.
When an individual never had the chance to form a bond with the child of his/her spouse, it likely that there will be an even greater challenge. It is important to give the child time to adjust to the mode of authority.
In some circumstances, taking up the role of mother or father right away may work, depending on the age of the child, and if the child has lost their parent by unforeseen conditions, this can place an amount of stress on the
stepparent, which leaves him or her burdened with emotion.
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The role of a stepparent is undefined and not easily accepted.
Bringing up someone else’s child can be a fulfilling, motivating, yet heart-rending and exhausting responsibility. It involves developing an understanding and bond, which was not acquired via natural genes or the womb. However, before we start complaining about a man or woman parenting a child, which is not his or her own, let’s make it clear that all parents make mistakes.
Assume that we are not speaking of stepfathers and stepmothers who are both physically and verbally abusive to their stepchild, but the everyday challenges, which are obvious to some and invisible to others.
Assume the Role of “Parent” Right Away
Parenting begins with doing simple tasks such as assisting with preparing children for school in the mornings. “Every day he would take his stepdaughter to school in the mornings, it was his duty, a way for him to get to know her, and observe how she interacted with his little girl. But anytime his stepdaughter was bad-mannered, he could not help, but give her the dirtiest look.”
A stepfather admits that he despised his stepchild and for no apparent reason. If his daughter became disrespectful he would blame the stepdaughter or overlook it, but as time passed the bond between him and his step child grew.
When an individual never had the chance to form a bond with the child of his/her spouse, it likely that there will be an even greater challenge. It is important to give the child time to adjust to the mode of authority.
In some circumstances, taking up the role of mother or father right away may work, depending on the age of the child, and if the child has lost their parent by unforeseen conditions, this can place an amount of stress on the
stepparent, which leaves him or her burdened with emotion.
To continue reading , purchase Vol. 7 #10 2015 issue
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