Dating is not an exact science. There are no set rules that guarantee a winning formula with everyone you meet, because different personalities appreciate different things.
In the digital age of social media, however, dating and relationships require much more effort in order to create a lasting and meaningful bond. Our younger generation has developed misguided practices on the value of relationships – especially our males. While some parents exercise their duties in educating their children about the risks of sexual intercourse, a new discussion needs to take place, more so between fathers and their sons. This discussion needs to be on the value of relationships and the importance of courting and dating a woman. It needs to be taught and emphasised that valuing a woman is an essential part of being a man.
More fathers need to instil within their sons that mistreating a woman is tasteless and immature behaviour. Notwithstanding the dynamics of varying human personalities, there are some general principles that remain constant and significant in forging relationships with the opposite sex.
If we have any desire to change the way in which women are objectified and mistreated, then fathers, it is your responsibility to teach your sons the following fundamental principles about dating.
1. Take it Slow
Sons should be reminded that it is always important to never rush into any form of relationship. While it is okay to express your interest, take time to get to know her. Building a friendship that evolves into a relationship ensures longevity. When a woman recognises that she is valued as a person, her attraction will grow. It is also important to abstain from any sexual activity during this period as the introduction of sex too early can be misinterpreted as the true intentions of the courtship.
2. Respect her
It is also true that women value the respect of their men as it solidifies the commitment within the relationship. A woman wants to be respected for her thoughts, her individuality, her presence, and her flaws. Young men need to be taught that the greatest respect comes when, as men, we stay committed to one woman. Reassuring her that you only have eyes for her, and actually living up to that commitment, is one of the greatest forms of respect.
3. Notice her
Sons should be taught to pay attention to the woman he dates; notice the small changes that happen occasionally and compliment her on the efforts she makes to keep things diverse and interesting. Women value the attention of their men and she will definitely appreciate you more.
4. Be a gentleman
Manners are an essential part of human existence, especially during dating. Fathers need to instil in their sons, the proper ways to speak to and treat women. Chivalry is not outdated, so simple gestures like opening the door and pulling out her seat are ways to show her that you are caring and compassionate.
5. Be yourself
Women do not appreciate when men put on a show to try to impress them. Do not try to be anything or anyone you are not. Be confident in who you are and keep it real. She’ll be more attracted to the genuineness of your character than any façade you might portray.
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Dating is not an exact science. There are no set rules that guarantee a winning formula with everyone you meet, because different personalities appreciate different things.
In the digital age of social media, however, dating and relationships require much more effort in order to create a lasting and meaningful bond. Our younger generation has developed misguided practices on the value of relationships – especially our males. While some parents exercise their duties in educating their children about the risks of sexual intercourse, a new discussion needs to take place, more so between fathers and their sons.
This discussion needs to be on the value of relationships and the importance of courting and dating a woman. It needs to be taught and emphasised that valuing a woman is an essential part of being a man.
More fathers need to instil within their sons that mistreating a woman is tasteless and immature behaviour. Notwithstanding the dynamics of varying human personalities, there are some general principles that remain constant and significant in forging relationships with the opposite sex.
If we have any desire to change the way in which women are objectified and mistreated, then fathers, it is your responsibility to teach your sons the following fundamental principles about dating.
1. Take it Slow
Sons should be reminded that it is always important to never rush into any form of relationship. While it is okay to express your interest, take time to get to know her. Building a friendship that evolves into a relationship ensures longevity. When a woman recognises that she is valued as a person, her attraction will grow. It is also important to abstain from any sexual activity during this period as the introduction of sex too early can be misinterpreted as the true intentions of the courtship.
2. Respect her
It is also true that women value the respect of their men as it solidifies the commitment within the relationship. A woman wants to be respected for her thoughts, her individuality, her presence, and her flaws. Young men need to be taught that the greatest respect comes when, as men, we stay committed to one woman. Reassuring her that you only have eyes for her, and actually living up to that commitment, is one of the greatest forms of respect.
3. Notice her
Sons should be taught to pay attention to the woman he dates; notice the small changes that happen occasionally and compliment her on the efforts she makes to keep things diverse and interesting. Women value the attention of their men and she will definitely appreciate you more.
4. Be a gentleman
Manners are an essential part of human existence, especially during dating. Fathers need to instil in their sons, the proper ways to speak to and treat women. Chivalry is not outdated, so simple gestures like opening the door and pulling out her seat are ways to show her that you are caring and compassionate.
5. Be yourself
Women do not appreciate when men put on a show to try to impress them. Do not try to be anything or anyone you are not. Be confident in who you are and keep it real. She’ll be more attracted to the genuineness of your character than any façade you might portray.
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