Love is the continuation of the need to achieve sexual gratification with the addition of the need to attain an emotional connection.
He who has never succumbed to the sensual strokes of lust cast the first stone! My friends, this is not an easy emotion to avoid especially in this age of raging libidos. In fact, it is impossible to escape the sticky and clammy palms of lust. History is riddled with the licentious indiscretions of those once thought to be above its allure and the fact still remains that lust must be courted to facilitate courting. Let’s be honest, chances are your first attraction was not his wit or her eloquence, that first attraction was primal; lust.According to the Statistical Institute of Jamaica’s (STATIN) report of 2014, locally there were over 18,000 marriages recorded in 2013. In that same year some 2,400 divorce absolutes were granted by the courts and each year the trend indicated that more and more couples are calling it quits. In the United States, the statistics are even more telling. Roughly 45% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. What is even more interesting is that less couples are getting married, choosing instead to cohabit instead of jumping the broom. This lends strength to the argument that marriages are no longer viable or desirable for modern couples.
Typically, when one dates, love is never a factor. Dating is the domain of lust and the stronger the lust, the greater the desire to reconnect with the person in hopes of ‘scoring’. Individuals can become so focused on sexual satisfaction that they never take the time to know the person they are dating and not knowing equates to not caring. When the ‘caring’ component is eliminated from your sexual encounters then love can never creep in. Should you find yourself in a situation like this don’t even bother with the niceties of goodbyes, run for the hills, unless you are satisfied with having meaningless but pleasurable sex and are a member of Tinder.
If you are more concerned with establishing lasting relationships remember this golden rule: Lust is a short-lived one-sided passion, whilst love is a satisfyingly slow and steady ride with someone you want to talk and listen to. Love can become bumpy but it is never agonising, and it requires constant work to maintain it like a well-oiled machine. Date with the goal of making meaningful connections and graduate your ‘lust life’ to ‘love life’.
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He who has never succumbed to the sensual strokes of lust cast the first stone! My friends, this is not an easy emotion to avoid especially in this age of raging libidos. In fact, it is impossible to escape the sticky and clammy palms of lust. History is riddled with the licentious indiscretions of those once thought to be above its allure and the fact still remains that lust must be courted to facilitate courting. Let’s be honest, chances are your first attraction was not his wit or her eloquence, that first attraction was primal; lust.According to the Statistical Institute of Jamaica’s (STATIN) report of 2014, locally there were over 18,000 marriages recorded in 2013. In that same year some 2,400 divorce absolutes were granted by the courts and each year the trend indicated that more and more couples are calling it quits. In the United States, the statistics are even more telling. Roughly 45% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. What is even more interesting is that less couples are getting married, choosing instead to cohabit instead of jumping the broom. This lends strength to the argument that marriages are no longer viable or desirable for modern couples.
Typically, when one dates, love is never a factor. Dating is the domain of lust and the stronger the lust, the greater the desire to reconnect with the person in hopes of ‘scoring’. Individuals can become so focused on sexual satisfaction that they never take the time to know the person they are dating and not knowing equates to not caring. When the ‘caring’ component is eliminated from your sexual encounters then love can never creep in. Should you find yourself in a situation like this don’t even bother with the niceties of goodbyes, run for the hills, unless you are satisfied with having meaningless but pleasurable sex and are a member of Tinder.
If you are more concerned with establishing lasting relationships remember this golden rule: Lust is a short-lived one-sided passion, whilst love is a satisfyingly slow and steady ride with someone you want to talk and listen to. Love can become bumpy but it is never agonising, and it requires constant work to maintain it like a well-oiled machine. Date with the goal of making meaningful connections and graduate your ‘lust life’ to ‘love life’.
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